Get exhausted just thinking about making small talk with a stranger? Have nearly unbearable anxiety when getting ready for a new client consultation? Try these three tips the next time you find yourself in a conversation with someone new.
I know it seems obvious, but most people decide if they will initially like someone within the first 5 seconds of interaction. Whether you're networking, meeting a potential client, or being introduced to the parents, a natural smile and a solid handshake goes a long way and fast.
It is our natural tendency to process the words we hear while simultaneously trying to come up with our next sentence. Take the time to give this quick conversation 100% of your focus.
Keep the smile on your face, slightly lean towards the other person and truly listen to the words they have to say. You never know who you might meet.
We've all been asked "How are you?" Without missing a beat we quickly spit out "Great!" even if our day has been horrible.
At the end of the day people want to work with and be surrounded by people they trust. By quickly opening up and presenting an honest answer to one of their initial questions you place yourself apart from everyone else they will meet that day. It also breaks down their internal shields and allows space for deeper conversation.
Now, I'm not saying give them your life story after learning their name or supply them with a play by play of your last 24 hours. However, by providing specific examples in a concise and polite delivery you can almost immediately create an instant connection.
By utilizing these three simple steps I can almost guarantee that you will quickly connect with someone, no matter the circumstances.
Now go meet someone new, and let me know how it went in the comments below!